This month’s RAOKA (Random Acts of Kick Arse) topic is new beginnings. Each month a new theme is explored. To get involved, please visit Zeenat Merchant-Syal at Positive Provocations.
My Merriam Webster Dictionary defines commencement as “the act or time of a beginning.” As a young adult graduating high school and then college, I was always puzzled why they sometimes referred to the graduation ceremony as a commencement ceremony. After all, graduation meant the end of my high school and then my undergraduate college career. Then I realized that graduation from college was also the beginning of my working life.
Every day, each of us faces a myriad of losses: relationships, jobs, money, friends and, in the worse case scenario, someone close to us passes away. In each of these situations we will need to mourn our loss. “Time heals everything,” they say. I think that’s mostly true. But it often take a great deal of time to get over these losses.
I still remember getting laid off for the first time. Up to that point, it was my favorite job and I figured a layoff was what happened to someone else. I spent the months afterward confused, surprised and hurt. I also spent considerable time thinking about the cool job (and my friends) that I would miss.
Looking back now, I realize these losses offered me something more than just sadness and disappointment. These losses offered me a chance at a new beginning. My first layoff prompted me to join Toastmasters, something I had been meaning to do. From that loss I’ve gained a new sense of confidence of my public speaking abilities and I’ve met an amazing group of friends. Other losses have made it possible for me to meet new people and spend time focusing on things that, in retrospect, were more important.
I know I’m a glass half-full kind of person, but I believe it’s possible for every ending in our lives to be a new beginning. A beginning of a new path that brings us greater opportunities for happiness and wisdom. What if we could re-frame our ending to realize that our loss is really a new beginning? It’s possible right now.
So how about you…can you describe a time you realized a loss was really a new beginning? I’d love to hear about it…
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